2024 - what can I say? We're only 5 months in and things just haven't been good.
The first week of the year my mom needed moved from the rehab center to a nursing home. None of us were able to give her the 24 hour care that she needed. However, during that time, the nursing home was saying she didn't qualify for a nursing home; nor did she qualify for assisted living. You're reading that right, too bad for one - not bad enough for the other. During that same week, my brother-in-law, unexpectedly, needed to have quadruple bypass.
Also in January, my one Aunt passed as well as my cousin's husband.
My parents live with my sister J and this was her husband needing the bypass. No surprise she was very stressed. She has my Dad, her husband needs serious surgery and Mom's in limbo. Naturally the rest of us-myself and sisters E & S, jumped in to help with Dad. Brother-in-law came through surgery perfectly and has healed nicely fortunately.
I got the flu in January....which led into my 60th birthday....which meant really no celebration. Though my sisters did take me to dinner. They went out afterwards, I went home to bed. For my 60th year I decided to invest in me by rejoining Weight Watcher meetings and buying a walking pad...neither has gotten much use 😞.
Because my sister hired an Elder Law Attorney (if you have the money, so worth it) we did get Mom into a nursing home. Mom had her good and bad days. I never seemed to catch her on her good days and several times she didn't know who I was; sometimes I couldn't get her to wake up. It was sad and the mother I once knew, was slipping away. I hit a point that I didn't want to visit her anymore; I knew I had to, but I didn't want to (E felt the same). I started going over during my lunch hour; it limited the time I could stay.
Unexpectedly in February, my dog Dexter needed put down. We knew this was coming due to a tumor by his liver; but it just was another thing to happen in an all ready stressful year. I miss my Dexter Doodle Noodle.
The end of February my Dad turned 90! A celebration finally! Not a big one, but we took him to his favorite diner and that made him happy! (by the way, he and mom celebrated 70 years in 2023).
Then March started. At 1:30 a.m. on March 7th, I was awakened by a phone call from J letting me know that Mom had passed away. We knew this was coming; but you're never truly prepared for it. And also, once again, I was 7 days in with a flu! (no meds as the doctor says it was viral). My work is very good with bereavement leave, so I didn't have to worry there; but we had all the preparations, contacting family and such and it just seemed so whirlwind. We went through a lot of photos, reliving the memories. My Dad kept insisting the photos of him in the younger days weren't him. We told him that that must be our real dad - the mailman (inside joke, my Dad was a mailman 😀).
We get through that. And then, Dad is in the ER with an UTI....he was very ill, but doing much better.
The day after the funeral I went to Urgent Care and finally an antibiotic for my flu!! It's gone, but I've been left with a dry cough for a very long time. And of course, allergy season started.....
We spent our first year without Mom on Easter. There will be a lot of firsts this year. Mother's Day was hard.
Last week, Dad was back in the ER with an UTI again! He was there a week and they just moved him to a rehab center; but things are just not going well. He has several medical issues that affect his mind and we just don't know if the craziness (for lack of a better word) is going away this time. More than likely he'll end up in a nursing home. J can no longer take care of him as he can do nothing for himself anymore; we're not sure he'll be able to walk again.
So 2024 hasn't been a good year.
